Increasing sexual repression: call for transformation.

Posted: July 5, 2011 in Uncategorized

contributed by Chandresh Bhardwaj

Imagine that you are watching a movie with young kids and a war scene is playing. Now imagine the situation with the same young kids but instead of a war scene, a lovemaking scene is playing. In which situation would you ask those kids to turn their eyes away from the TV? Most likely it would be when the lovemaking scene is going on, right? If that’s the case, you are not alone.

There are many people around the world who turn kids’ eyes away when they see a lovemaking scene playing on TV, but surprisingly, the same people don’t mind when those kids are spending half their day watching horror movies and playing violent video games, which depict killing and essentially devalue human life.

What is surprising is that kids are not allowed to watch something which shows an expression of love, yet they are allowed to watch something which depicts hatred and violence. The act of sex celebrates love and brings people into the world, while the other is aimed at killing humans and propagates hatred. People love to see a man dying on the battlefield but act like they can’t tolerate watching a woman make love in a passionate manner, even though it is often a guilty pleasure.

We need to understand that by repressing sex, we are making ourselves more sexually obsessed. Do you ever wonder why Playboy is one of the bestselling magazines or why the pornographic industry is a billion dollar business? It’s all because sex has always been repressed.

D.H. Lawrence, a famous English writer, says, “Pornography is the attempt to insult sex, to do dirt on it.” Secretly watching porno films or daydreaming about sex all day shows how sexually sick we have become. The consequence of sexual repression results in the large number of teenage pregnancies every year. These teenagers are being taught so-called ‘sex education’, which creates more curiosity and fascination about sex. The reason is simple: We are always attracted to something that we are advised to stay away from. It doesn’t matter what it is, we just want to experience the pleasure of breaking the rules. This is why abstinence-only sex education doesn’t work.

Another problem is that we all think we know what sex is. Our definition of sex is limited to having fun and satisfying our physical desires. However, sex is much more than that. It’s a completely different phenomenon.

Sex has always been misunderstood for lust. You have sex just because you want to get to that “next step” in your relationship or simply because you are “old enough” to have it. In reality, sex should be a celebration of love. It’s an act that does not need any planning. If it is happening out of love, you will see that it happens automatically. You have your first experience of bliss during those wonderful moments.

On the other hand, when sex comes out of lust, it’s often nothing like your daydreams. One can’t grow as a human being if his or her mind is not developed well enough about sexual energy. The matureness is needed mentally, not just physically. Be aware that sexual energy is as good as any other emotion of life if understood properly, and as bad as any other activity if misused or not understood properly. The key is to transform it with understanding rather than repressing it, always.

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